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Some Deep Breaths, Please ..........
Proper breathing can help develop ejaculatory
control. Put simply, taking a few deep breaths can help dissipate the arousal/tension that
leads to quick ejaculations. The kind of breathing that's needed is deep, easy, and
relaxing. Unfortunately, many of us don't breathe this way. When I ask clients to take
some deep breaths, I notice that many of them actually get more tense. They tense their
chest or shoulder muscles, sometimes their neck and even arm muscles as well, and even
hold their breath (which will make anyone more tense).
The best kind of relaxing breathing I know is the kind taught in most schools of
meditation. There is no obvious tensing of muscles, and while inhaling, the belly (not the
chest) swells and protrudes. That is, if you lay one hand on your belly while doing this
kind of breathing, you'll notice your stomach pushing out a bit on each inhalation and
going down a bit on each exhalation. If you're not used to breathing this way, it will
take a little practice to learn it. Keep in mind that the purpose is relaxation, keep a
hand on your belly to make sure it's protruding slightly with each inhalation, and try not
to tense any muscles. If you have trouble with this, it can help to imagine that your
belly is an empty balloon, being gently filled with each inhalation, then being gently
emptied with each exhalation. This is a fiction, of course, since the air is always going
to the same place, your lungs. Nonetheless, the image is usually helpful.
Once you can do this, it's a good idea to practice it as often as possible. A few deep
breaths of this kind are perhaps the quickest way for most people to relax. Experiment
with taking a few deep breaths when you stop stimulation in the partner exercises.
The more excited you are, the more likely you'll want to take short, superficial
breaths and even pant. But with some practice, most men can overcome that tendency and
take deep, relaxing breaths.
If you want to go further with using relaxation to help gain ejaculatory control, you
can imagine that the air you take in goes down into your pelvis, relaxing the muscles and
the whole region. The more relaxed your pelvis is, the less the chance of ejaculating.